Confessions of a Professional Mom

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What You Say to Yourself Matters

September 23, 2015 , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

girl_bathroommirrorWhat is the first thing you say to yourself in the morning?

You know, that moment when you first open your heavy eyelids and the light creeps in; neurons start firing and your first thought of the day hangs over your head like a conversation bubble. Suddenly, the loop starts playing. You know, the one that rehashes yesterdays shit and successes and then chastises you for last nights overindulgence of red wine and Netflix. Then, as you throw your legs over the side of the bed and stand up to go pee, a single word passes over your lips. What is the first word that comes out of your mouth? I have a friend who admitted the first thing she utters is,“Fuck—here we go again!” A far cry from Oprah’s urging to start the day with, “thank you!”

I am all too familiar with starting my day with fuck and have since adopted Oprah’s thank you! What a difference a word makes. Taylor Swift included it in her Fight Song…“a single word makes a heart open”. She may be annoying, but she’s on to something. Because one word can help you set an intention. Setting an intention can change your entire day.

You know how you always here yoga instructors and life coaches say, “Set an intention for your practice; for your day; for your year.” What do you expect? How do you want it to turn out? This actually works! It took me years to understand it, but it really can change the outcome of just about anything. There is a second half to this one word equation and it’s practice and consistency. The more you do it the easier it gets, until it becomes second nature. It becomes your normal.

What do you say to yourself in the mirror?

The bathroom mirror—the main stage where I’ve personally given some of my most critical performances. To me. About me. Shit on me! It’s like the looking glass into Never Never Land. Never said anything nice to myself. Never noticed my real beauty or gifts. Never really SAW a happy me looking back. Well, except in between removing my contacts and putting on my glasses and then I look like a damn super model. Never may be an exaggeration, but there were actually years and years of this behavior…and I still battle with it from time to time. (damn hormones)

I have since learned to look at myself in the mirror and speak to me like I’d speak to my kids. Tell myself all the things I like about me. Tell myself how great I am and what a creative day I’m going to have. I recently found this gem on Facebook and had to share. It illustrates my point perfectly and this little girl is so damn cute it’s ridiculous. Give it a look. Imagine if we started using these words at her age! It’s never too late to love yourself. What you say to yourself matters!

What’s the first thing you say to yourself in the morning? In the mirror?

Stay sane, my friends.

Allison DeFord



P.S. In case you’re in need of some life changing words here’s a list of some brilliant books/blogs filled with powerful words that have changed my life:

The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown
Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar
Daring Greatly, Brené Brown
Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert
17 Lies That Are Holding You Back, Steve Chandler
Zen and the Art of Happiness, Chris Prentiss
Rising Strong, Brené Brown


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