Confessions of a Professional Mom

Confessions of a Professional Mom

Professional mom seeking clarity, balance and a well deserved glass of wine.

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Pull the Log Out of Your Own Eye

September 26, 2014 , , , , , ,

Pull the log out!
Over the last three years, I’ve done an inordinate amount of work on my personal growth. Hired a coach. Read books. Attended retreats. Held a retreat. Written in my journal—becoming mindful of how I see the world, how I talk to myself in a positive way. Self love over self loathing. Yada yada yada!

As much as I’d like to think I’m all zen and no longer judgmental of others and the more I really considered the thoughts that fill my head…I realized something profound.

I AM STILL JUDGEMENTAL. Brick to the head! 

Many of my thoughts are directly related to “correcting” someone else. Fixing them. Changing the way they do something. Secretly critiquing some inanimate object or someones lawn or their choice of food in a restaurant.

For example, I often think Mr. Confessions is a great starter and a poor finisher, when it comes to household projects and such. Well, when I really examine myself, I too need some work in the “finishing” department. Especially at work. Huh!

I may also have chastised my mother (in my own head, or at work with Lori, or with my sister) time and time again for “sitting at the kitchen table and stewing about things from the past.” Guess what, I think I might have my own kitchen table right up there inside my head. Dammit!

The past is over. The future is tomorrow. Today is my future. Today is my opportunity and focus. As Mandy Ingber says (on my favorite yoga dvd) “My power is in the present moment.” Also, I can’t argue with reality. That’s the definition of insanity, right?! What is IS and that’s ok. Why do I feel the need to assign an emotion or judgement to it?

Ever hear that old saying (may be from the Bible):

“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”

So…here I am with a giant log sticking out of my own eye. Now, everybody stand back! I’m pulling it out! This could get ugly. Or, ultimately, a whole lot prettier….less judging, more loving.

Judgmental much?

Stay sane, my friends.

Allison DeFord



(My Superfriend, Cheryl, is cringing at how badly I Photoshopped this image! 😉


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I’ve never heard that saying before but it’s very apt. It’s something we ALL need to be reminded of from time to time so don’t worry, you’re not the only one in the judgmental boat >.<



September 27, 2014

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