Confessions of a Professional Mom

Confessions of a Professional Mom

Professional mom seeking clarity, balance and a well deserved glass of wine.

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My Vagina, It’s Like an Old Friend

September 18, 2014 , , , , , , , , , , ,

The Four AgreementsHow often do you make assumptions or take things personally?
Monthly, daily or, God forbid, hourly?

I can relate and recently, after a trip to Funkytown, Mr. Confessions blurted out, “I love your (rhymes with wussy), it’s like an old friend.” (ME: eyebrow raise and eyes wide open) WTF

Five years ago, this may have sent me into storytelling overload and completely hurt my feelings. I would have spent the next week pondering how bored he must be and how unexciting sex must be for him, with me. Old friend…indeed!

There is a book, however, that changed my life forever and removes me from storytelling and hurt feelings. Maybe you’ve already read The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. Ruiz suggests there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles, that if followed, can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

Freedom from assumptions, stories and hurt feelings. Brick to the head! Duh, who doesn’t want that.

1. Don’t make assumptions.
Stop assuming the worst and keeping yourself in “victim” mode. Ask for clarification!

2. Don’t take things personally.
Words are generally more about the person speaking them…it’s not all about you!

3. Be impeccable with your word.
It’s not only how you speak to others; pay attention to how you speak to yourself!

4. Always do your best.
Sometimes 80% is your best in a given situation and that’s ok. There is no such thing as perfect.

Needless to say, I employed number 1 and 2 and questioned his “old friend” statement. He laughed and shifted any assumptions from the dark and boring side to the truth, which was quite loving and sweet. His truth, not mine. That’s the key!

See what The Four Agreements can do for you, and your vagina.

Victim much? What’s your story?

Stay sane, my friends.
Allison DeFord



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