Confessions of a Professional Mom

Confessions of a Professional Mom

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Please Fasten Your Seatbelt, it’s Gonna Be a Happy Ride!

April 30, 2013 , , , , , , , , , ,

Fasten Your SeatbeltWhile the gray-haired couple dozes in the row in front of me, I sit here basking in the quiet as the solo occupant of row 21, seats F, E and D. The sun is setting as we cruise across the country at 33,000 feet and I’ve never been happier.

I could list all the wonderful things in my life…a lovely home, married to my high school sweetheart of twenty-five years and still hot for each other, two beautiful healthy daughters and doing what I love for a living, but that isn’t what makes me happy.

I have learned that happiness starts on the inside. Not the other way around. Things on the outside only enhance the happiness that already lives inside you.

So, after a multi-year battle with self-loathing and facing my fears about success and money, I have learned to find joy in every situation—to choose happy. Before kids (#BK), sitting on an airplane for five hours seemed like a death sentence. Fast forward thirteen years and it’s become a little slice of quiet heaven. An indulgence, really. Crazy!

The other “brick to the head” is that I can move from WORRIER to WARRIOR in an instant. (thank you Steve Chandler) All I have to do is take an action. I think I could be stuck in the middle of the ocean without a paddle and I know if I just keep rowing with my hands — taking an action with whatever I have available—I will arrive somewhere and there will be a Starbucks. The other little bonus message that was tied to the above-mentioned brick with a little string is the practice of gratitude. As long as I’m grateful, in every situation, happiness is also there. I think they are cousins twice removed.

The important thing that I now have brain tattooed is this – I have a choice. I always have a choice. There is a particular person on FB that I am connected to and it appears that they are a victim in every situation. Something or someone is always in charge of their circumstance and, therefore, their happiness. I am so close to commenting, “Please shut the fuck up – expect nothing, create everything!” (again, TM Steve Chandler) No one is coming to save you. You are it.

Find the beauty in everything. Happiness starts from the inside out. Choose happy!

Stay sane, my friends.

P.S. The flight attendant gave me a free beer. Happy, happy, happy! (I seriously just quoted Phil Robertson from Duck Dynasty?!)

allisondeford

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You are a guiding light of sunshine this morning. YOU harnessed happiness and served it up in the delight of your words. You are so loved and beloved 🙂

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creativity365

April 30, 2013

I like your focus on internal control of mood. It is easier to just blame the world for anything negative, but then when something good happens the world must be to blame also. There is nothing to thank yourself for in that situation, and that is a very depressing way to live.

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grenqvist

April 30, 2013

Reblogged this on My Day Out With An Angel.

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joseasanoj

May 2, 2013

I wake every morning and chant in my head “breathe and trust the process” I’m adding to that “expect nothing and create everything” xoxox

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Wynona Grandi

May 2, 2013

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